Chances are you’re someone who has one or more children of your own, yet you feel that you also have more than you can give. You may have also previously tried getting pregnant, yet were unsuccessful; however, you then adopted, but were then able to conceive a baby of your own. Regardless of the circumstances, you likely have a family that has one or more adopted kids, as well as one or more children of your own. Here are ways that you can ensure that you have a happy and healthy family life when all of your kids are not biologically yours.
Preparing Children for a New Arrival
When a new arrival is on the way, whether biological or adopted, it’s important to prepare the other children for this. For instance, tell your child that you had siblings before and that you want them to have siblings as well. Additionally, get them involved in helping to decorate the new child’s bedroom. If you’ll be adopting, let your children attend one meeting with the social worker and allow them to ask questions. Most importantly, let the children know that they’ll still be able to have one-on-one time with you after the new child arrives. If you’re adopting, let your children know that even though they will be a permanent member of the family, they will never be replaced.
Always watch out in terms of going overboard with treating an adopted child differently, as this can have a negative effect on the other children. Essentially, this can make an adopted or biological child feel almost like a guest in their own home. In terms of adopted children, they can almost feel like it’s not such a wonderful thing that they were adopted.
If Your Family Needs Help
Some sibling rivalry isn’t anything to worry about; however, if you notice a personality change in one of your children, or if they’re asking questions that you aren’t sure how to answer, professional help may be a useful option to consider. Your adoption agency can make some recommendations, such as counseling services and support groups.